The Fifth Commandment of Dating


In the book of Hesications, chapter 20, you’ll find the 10 Commandments of Dating.  Today, I’d like to focus for a minute on the 5th commandment- Remember Your Date Night and Keep it Holy.

Ok, enough with the sacrilege.  But seriously, in the strictest sense of the words, this is sound advice.  To be Holy simply means to be set apart.  And you really want to keep your DateNights set apart.  You want to keep them high on the priority list and make sure they are different than just any ol’ night with the old ball and chain.  So here are a few rules for how to do just that:

1) MEN & WOMEN :: Get it scheduled

Connecting time, play time with your honey is paramount to the success of your relationship.  If you’re married, its the most important relationship you have here on Earth- yes, even over that of your kids or grandkids, or parents or siblings or even your boss.  And there are few things in your life that should cause either of you to miss DateNight.  So come up with a regular, scheduled time that you both agree upon.  For many of my friends it’s Monday night.  But for Penny and I, its Friday night.  When is it for you?

2) MEN & WOMEN :: There’s no excuse for missing it

On occasion, it may be appropriate that something else happens on your regularly scheduled DateNight. That’s ok from time to time.  Perhaps there’s a family emergency.  A trip, a function at church.  But out of the 52 weeks of the year, this really shouldn’t happen more than 10 times or so.  But when it does, there are 6 other nights during the week with which to make something happen.  So make it up.

3) MEN:: Have a plan

Hey men, it’s your job to pursue her.  Therefore, your job to plan the dates.  Few things are worse than getting all dressed up, hopping in the car, pulling out of the driveway, looking at your date and saying, “So what do you want to do tonight?”  Sure, we can all picture that blank face looking back at us.  So- simply, have a plan.  Sure, it takes time to plan out.  It takes time to research and figure out what’s out there.  But it’s time well spent.  Just a tip, don’t do it the day of…plan it out early.

4) MEN ::Avoid Repetition

Its easy when you find that restaurant you really like or that activity that was super fun to want to go do those things again.  Its not-so-easy to avoid that thing becoming dull and repetitive and lose its flair.  For this, I recommend a concept that people always look at me sideways whenever they find out about- plan out your dates in seasons.  Have a schedule.  Its simple.  Easy.  And really works well.  I actually have an excel spreadsheet that tells me what I’m doing from now through the end of the year.  Come the first of the year, I’ll have a new schedule that goes from January through May.  In June, the summer schedule hits and goes through the beginning of September.  Then I’m back to the fall.  It’s great.  It keeps things from getting repetitive.  Let’s me find new restaurants to try.  And for anything that might require buying tickets early, gives me time to do that.  (by the way, if you want a copy of the spreadsheet I use, email me and I’ll shoot it to you).  It works, and its easy.  It even lets me plan the weeks when I know we’ll need a make up date night.

5) WOMEN :: Be catchable

Hey ladies, if the man’s job is to pursue you, its your job to make the pursuit worth it.  Sure, you, in and of yourself, are worth it.  But you really can add in the things that make the pursuit fun.  Dress for your man.  Have a few “surprises” of your own for him.  Flirt with your man…in public.  Do something rather sneaky that just the two of you know about.  Acquiesce to his request. In other words, be catchable.  Your man’s job is to plan the date- in other words, lay the framework.  Your job- make the date fun.  And for when you get home later that night, have a plan of your own…if you smell what I’m cookin’.  Surprise and shock him!

Go for it- improve your dating life by following this, the 5th Commandment of Dating!  Remember Your DateNights and Keep Them Holy.

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