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5 Great Valentines Day GDS Posts


It’s Valentines Day in America.  This is the day that so many things will be happening.  There’ll be a lot of first dates, and a lot of last dates.  Some people will be saying, “I love you” for the first time, and a lot of people saying “I love you” for the thousandth time.  There’ll be a lot of engagements, a lot of celebrating, and above all…A LOT OF DATING.  So in honor of the day that honors love, I thought I’d take a moment and repost 5 of our most popular recent posts on Love and Dating.

1) How to Say “I Love You” for the First Time. It’s pretty self explanatory, but for anyone who is thinking that tonight might be the night for those 3 magic words, this one is for you.

2) 5 Ways to Pursue Your Girl Men, this post is for you.  There is something about the way that your girl’s heart is wired that she wants to be pursued.  And whether or not you realize it, or not, your heart is wired to be in pursuit.  Here are 5 tips for making it happen.

3) Navigating the Land Between…in Dating Have you ever found yourself in a place between being just friends and knowing there was something more, but you weren’t sure what?  Read here for tips on how to navigate that trecherous terrain

4) What are You Voting on in Your Relationship There are things in a relationship that require intentionality.  Here are somethings in your Relationship that you need to be super intentional about and make sure that you are both in agreement on.

5) The Fifth Commandment of Dating. It’s easy to commit a lot of  “sins” when it comes to dating.  But this is one of the big one that you really do NOT want to commit.  Remember Your DateNights and Keep Them Holy.

That’s it for now, Happy Dating

5 Ways to Navigate The Land Between…in Dating


Have you ever been in that spot with a girl and you aren’t quite ready to ask her out yet, but you definitely like her.  You know that spot… you guys really connect.  She’s easy to talk to.  You enjoy being with her.  The fact that she’s pretty hot doesn’t hurt anything.  But you’re not sure if you’re ready to make the big leap and full on ask her out.  You’re not sure if you like her that much?  Then my friend, you are in the Land Between.

Check out this picture.  What’s going on here?  Are they dating?  Maybe not…they aren’t exactly “next to” each other.  But he definitely looks like he could be “in to” her.  Maybe she’s still figuring it out.  But she’s not making an excuse to leave.  So what’s going on here?  Are they in the Land Between?

Last week I wrote a post about what to do when its time to tell her that you love her.  It was something a good friend of mine was going through and it got me to thinking about when that time came for me and Penny.  Well…this week I was working on a project with a different friend and he was telling me about some time he had recently spent one on one with a girl that he’s been into for a while.  It wasn’t a “date” per-say, but it felt very date-ish.  He’s still not quite ready to ask her out, but he’s definitely interested.  And he wasn’t quite sure what to make of it.  And I remember that time really well for Penny and I as well.

It really is a sort of Land Between.  What it doesn’t mean is that it’s time for the big “What is this” discussion.  I know it may seem like a good idea to have that Define-The-Relationship discussion at that point, afterall, its a good thing to be on the same page, isn’t it.  Sure it is.  In fact, I’d say that’s exactly what you want- to be on the same page.  To have everything above board and on the table.

We all know the pain of unspoken attraction and the confusion of an ambiguous relationship.  But the problem with those sort of discussions, with these DTR’s at this point, is that it goes beyond getting on the same page and forces both individuals to be in the same place.  And if they aren’t- then awkwardness ensues.

But how does that work.  I mean, look at the progress of relationships, it goes from attraction to dating…right?  Perhaps not.  Let me toss out a step in between, (thus The Land Between) that I think will help out everybody a lot!  It’s a stage that I think naturally exists, but some people want to skip over it all together.  That’s no good.  That stage exists for a reason.  And you want to take full advantage of each stage.  Don’t rush through the stage your on (I’d also say don’t linger either, but that’s another post).

This stage is what I call BEING INTENTIONAL.  So what does Being Intentional look like?  Well, it starts when you find yourself in this stage of- I think I like her, but I’m not sure I’m ready to full on ask her out just yet.  I just want to get to know her better.  It’s a time when you aren’t exclusively dating, but you do hang out a lot, especially in groups of people.  Maybe you’re hanging out with a group of people you wouldn’t otherwise hang out with.  You are really just getting to know each other.  When you go out with a group, you are intentionally in the same car.  You sit near her at the restaurant.  From time to time, you may even go out on a date, but for the most part, its not dating by yourselves.  The whole point is to get to know her to see if she’s someone you want to date.  It’s such a great stage to be on.

And like I said with How to Tell Her I Love You, you need to freakin’ tell her that’s where you are.  Ambiguity in a relationship never serves it well.  But you also want to make it ok for her to not be there at the same time.  That is a rule that will serve you well all throughout your relationship with her.

What does that talk look like with her?  It’s simple- but not easy-

1) Pick neutral ground to tell her. You don’t want her feeling trapped in your territory or feeling like her territory has been invaded.  It needs to be a safe place for her.  Keep it a public place.  You definitely want a place where the two of you can talk by yourselves, but not a place where your cloistered in a small room or car.  For me, it was in the auditorium at church after most people had cleared out but some people were still milling around.

2) Tell her what you like about her. This is a good way to start the conversation.  Is she easy to talk to?  Does she share similar interests?  I remember when my friends asked me what was the biggest attraction factor I had for Penny, my answer was that she was almost as big of a smart a** as I was.  She kept up with me and all my antics.  It was so much fun.  What is it for you?  Tell her specifically.

3) Let her know that you’re interested. Don’t skip this step.  This is the clarifying statement and the whole reason for having this talk in the first place.  Be really clear.  You like hanging out.  You see that there is some attraction and it could possibly one day be something more.  That’s what you’re interested in finding out. You can end this with, “I’d like to be intentional about getting to know you better.”

4) Tell her how you want to Be Intentional.  Tell her what “Being Intentional” looks like to you.  This is where you’ll dispel all doubt about your intentions.  Tell her you want to be intentional about hanging out around her.  Going to the groups she goes to.  Sitting near her.  Being intentional about talking with her.  In other words- taking the actual steps to get to know her better.  Not stalking her, just getting to know her.

5) Get her permission. Now this may sound cheesy, but there may be a boyfriend she hasn’t told you about.  The words are simple- “Is that ok with you?”  She’ll let you know one way or the other.  No harm no foul here, you just didn’t know and never-the-less, you guys still clicked, that’s why you needed to have this conversation.  Maybe she just got out of a relationship.  Or maybe that’s exactly where she is.  This is the part where its really ok for her to NOT be there yet.

So what do you do if she’s not there yet- reassure her that its really ok.  You just wanted to let her know where you were.  You can tell her that you are indeed still interested, and when she is ready, then she can let you know.

The great thing about this is that its a win-win.  Cause if she says that its all good, then great.  This actually begins your pursuit of her.  If not, then you have clarified some things.  If she is flirting with you and shouldn’t be, then this will let her know.  You also haven’t gone to any weird places yet, so you really still can be friends.  And if she does eventually get there, then she’ll know its safe to come back and let you know.

The Land Between- Being Intentional- call it whatever you may, but its a great stage to be in.

6 Steps to Kick Off Dating in the New Year



It seems that it’s been a while since any activity has happened here on GreatDateSpot.com.  These past holidays were nuts around the Mulberry House, relatives and travel and parties and cleaning and doing it all over again…unfortunately, it seems that Penny and I haven’t really had much time for dating.  And what do I think of that?  It was no excuse.  We still haven’t mastered the make-up date just yet, but that’s ok…we’re still learning.

You see, its bound to happen…you have a plan, and set DateNight, and things come up every so often that knock you off schedule.  But that’s no excuse not to date.  Not to connect.  And what Penny and I have gotten to practice over these last 3 or 4 weeks is how to connect and keep our own relationship strong in the midst of a lot of busy-ness and family time.  Sometimes we did well, sometimes we didn’t.   It’s part of our growth.  And part of my own growth as the one entrusted to lead this marriage.  It was tricky trying to discern the times when it ok that we fore-go’ed? (fore-went?) our time together for time with the family, and when we really needed to steal away and just have time together.  It’s not really something I have ever had to do before.  But I was fully aware of it the entire time.

All that aside- here we are- back home, back on a regular schedule, and its time to get back to Dating!  We are definitely ready for another season of Dating and learning how to grow in and through relationships.  Today I want to share a thought on Dating in the New Year.

Here’s my big thought- Be Freakin’ Intentional this year.  Be intentional about having regularly scheduled DateNights.  What that doesn’t mean is being laxidasical and waiting until the day of the date to think about what you’re going to do.  When you wait till the last minute, its a recipe for the M word: MONOTONY.  Monotony is the biggest killer of a dating life.  Mostly because it takes all the fun out of it.  But how do you avoid it?  How do you avoid the Rut?  The best way I have found to plan out what you’re going to do is simple.  It’s an old school method. Create a Calendar.

Create a schedule for DateNights.  This was our DateNight schedule from last fall.  Its simple Excel-type spreadsheet.  And below are 6 steps to creating an excellent season of Dating here at the start of 2011.

1) Get a night of the week that will generally be a scheduled night for the two of you.  For Penny and I, it’s Friday nights.  For a lot of my friends, it’s Monday nights.  Maybe its a rotating night.  However it works for you, get a night when you will intend to go out.  Keep in mind, it won’t work every week- things will come up.  But at least it gives you something to shoot for.

2) Go ahead and block out the times when you know things will interfere.  What are the big weeks you know are coming up that will disrupt your dating schedule.  For me, I color code those times.  Orange represents times when I know that Friday Night will not work.  Yellow represents weeks where Friday may work, but other things could creep in and we may have to be flexible (like the Friday after Thanksgiving).  Doing this will allow you to have a heads up and create a back up plan- a make up date night.

3) Plan an activity for each DateNight. This is where the real work and fun comes into planning these things.  You’ll see the times when the same ole thing keeps coming up- and it will allow you to move them around.  Penny and I will often go to Cincinnati or Louisville for our Dates, so for me, this lets me see when we are going out of town several weeks in a row- then lets me adjust it so we aren’t leaving all the time.  This will also allow for you to check the local theaters- what plays or sporting events or concerts are coming that you need to go ahead an get tickets for (and gives you time to get good seats 🙂 )  The key here is variety.  Revisit the old favorites, and get some new things going on as well.  One final tip: Try not to schedule too many movies over the season.  If there are some big movies coming out that you both want to see, then by all means, but otherwise- keep it changed up.

4) Schedule Food for each DateNight. Sharing a meal together is a time-honored tradition, but more than that, it gives you great time to talk.  Scheduling the food will allow you to keep a variety of restaurants on tap.  If you’re like me, you’ll see a restaurant as you’re driving around town…and think, “We should try going there sometime.” But then you never go back… sound familiar?  The Calendar will help make that happen.  And what I think you’ll find is that pairing your restaurant selection with your activity is a bit like pairing a fine wine with just the right cheese.

5) Think through the added bonus. In other words, what makes this DateNight special?  What is something that you’ll both get out of this night that doesn’t happen on too many other nights.  It could be many things: a long drive with lots of talk time.  Homemade meal.  A special surprise or gift.  Time with another couple or loved one.

6) Take Good Notes. This was a lesson I learned after making these calendars our a few times.  Let’s face it– sometimes a well planned DateNight just turns out to be a stinker.  Sometimes its really great.  Sometimes you’ll hear her say something that you want to remember.  Sometimes you’ll want to remember if you two liked a particular restaurant or if there was a lesson learned from a certain experience.  This helps you to grow and get better at creating memorable DateNights.

So go for it!  Kick off 2011 the right way- with a strong season of Dating.  Get it planned out.  I suggest start small- if you’ve never done this before, try from January through March.  As for Penny and I, my calendar this time is planned through the end of May.  We’ll move into Summer after that.

When you do it, come back and leave a message, let us know how your schedule is working out.

Alone in a Relationship


Last week I received a message from an old friend asking if we could get together.  She needed some advice from a “man’s perspective.”  We had the opportunity to get together today and caught up on what was going on with each other.  And coming out of that conversation, there are a ton of thoughts swirling around my head, but one stands out above the rest:: I am so thankful for the rich community that Penny and I not only get to live in today, but that we got to go through our season of dating together as well.

As my friend and I talked, she told me how she was absolutely in love with the man that she is with now.  They’ve been together almost a year, and he is so far and above different than any other man she ever been with before, that she couldn’t imagine being with anyone else.  But there was something that has been bothering her over these last couple of months.  Now that all the warm fuzzies of a new relationship have worn off and they find themselves settling into a rhythm, they are finding the rhythm has turned into a rut.  The more we talked, the more what I was hearing her say beyond anything else was that she knows that he loves her, but she doesn’t often feel it.  That, unfortunately, he has stopped pursuing her.  He loves her, he has committed himself to her (but hasn’t put a ring on it yet, so keep it in perspective), and she should know that.  And as a guy, I really get where he is coming from.  But it doesn’t translate well to her heart.  So she pushes in to try to make him understand that she is feeling a gap, hoping that he will respond.  But what she doesn’t see is that he is responding, in a very guy way.  Occasionally, the way he responds does connect to her heart, but usually it only serves to frustrate her more.

As I listened, I thought back to several times in Penny’s and my dating relationship, and even now that we are married, and all the times that we did something that was frustrating or didn’t seem to connect with each other…and at first I couldn’t think of much, but the more I thought, the more I realized that we have had and continue to have the same issues as my friend and her boyfriend.  But in almost every circumstance, I reached back to sitting in the garage of my LifeGroup leader, Michael (who would later be one of my groomsmen), hashing out what was going on, what was confusing and frustrating.  I thought about my ministry team leader at church, Lorelei, who, as a girl, gave me incredibly great insight into the liv

es and hearts of women and decoded a lot for me.  I thought of a great mutual friend that both Penny and I loved and loved us, Rebekah, who had eyes on us as a couple and wasn’t afraid to ask the hard questions, as well as encourage us in the things we were doing right.  And Penny had Megan, her own LifeGroup leader, that I knew she was constantly talking to (Megan would also be in our wedding). And I realized something- Penny and I were surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses of people who had nothing to gain from our relationship, they just loved us enough to love us.

So I asked the question to my friend, “Who do you have in your life that is having eyes for you both individually and as a couple?  Who has permission to slap you upside the head when you’re being stupid, and call the best out of you?”  And her answer… “No one,” she whispered as she shook her head.

You see, this guy hadn’t stopped loving my friend.  He just doesn’t have anyone in his life to hit him upside the head and say, “Hey, how about you not hang out with the boys tonight and go hang out with her.”  She doesn’t have anyone in her life to say, “Hey, you know how he said this thing and it frustrated you, do you hear how actually romantic it is.?”  They are doing this relationship alone.  Sure, they have each other, but they don’t have anyone else with them in the middle of it.

Here’s the thing, we were never meant to do any of this life alone.  We aren’t ring-bearers and most of us aren’t named Frodo.  We are designed and meant to do life- to do relationships, in community, with other people around.  It’s what I was talking about in the 10 Things I’ve Learned About Dating :: #7- Date in Community. You don’t have to be alone.  You won’t be better off for it either.  Get people around you.

So how’s it going with you?  I ask you the same question I asked my friend, Do you have anyone in your life that has eyes for you individually and as a couple?  Who has permission to slap you upside the head and cheer you on at the same time?  Leave a comment and let us know.

(PS- Thanks again to Michael, Megan, Lorelei, Rebekah, Todd, Michael R, Ginny, Brad, Jonny, Elijah, Sarah, Harlan, Mike, Teri, and so so many more who were and are part of the community that Penny and I get to do life with.  You guys rock!)

The Fifth Commandment of Dating


In the book of Hesications, chapter 20, you’ll find the 10 Commandments of Dating.  Today, I’d like to focus for a minute on the 5th commandment- Remember Your Date Night and Keep it Holy.

Ok, enough with the sacrilege.  But seriously, in the strictest sense of the words, this is sound advice.  To be Holy simply means to be set apart.  And you really want to keep your DateNights set apart.  You want to keep them high on the priority list and make sure they are different than just any ol’ night with the old ball and chain.  So here are a few rules for how to do just that:

1) MEN & WOMEN :: Get it scheduled

Connecting time, play time with your honey is paramount to the success of your relationship.  If you’re married, its the most important relationship you have here on Earth- yes, even over that of your kids or grandkids, or parents or siblings or even your boss.  And there are few things in your life that should cause either of you to miss DateNight.  So come up with a regular, scheduled time that you both agree upon.  For many of my friends it’s Monday night.  But for Penny and I, its Friday night.  When is it for you?

2) MEN & WOMEN :: There’s no excuse for missing it

On occasion, it may be appropriate that something else happens on your regularly scheduled DateNight. That’s ok from time to time.  Perhaps there’s a family emergency.  A trip, a function at church.  But out of the 52 weeks of the year, this really shouldn’t happen more than 10 times or so.  But when it does, there are 6 other nights during the week with which to make something happen.  So make it up.

3) MEN:: Have a plan

Hey men, it’s your job to pursue her.  Therefore, your job to plan the dates.  Few things are worse than getting all dressed up, hopping in the car, pulling out of the driveway, looking at your date and saying, “So what do you want to do tonight?”  Sure, we can all picture that blank face looking back at us.  So- simply, have a plan.  Sure, it takes time to plan out.  It takes time to research and figure out what’s out there.  But it’s time well spent.  Just a tip, don’t do it the day of…plan it out early.

4) MEN ::Avoid Repetition

Its easy when you find that restaurant you really like or that activity that was super fun to want to go do those things again.  Its not-so-easy to avoid that thing becoming dull and repetitive and lose its flair.  For this, I recommend a concept that people always look at me sideways whenever they find out about- plan out your dates in seasons.  Have a schedule.  Its simple.  Easy.  And really works well.  I actually have an excel spreadsheet that tells me what I’m doing from now through the end of the year.  Come the first of the year, I’ll have a new schedule that goes from January through May.  In June, the summer schedule hits and goes through the beginning of September.  Then I’m back to the fall.  It’s great.  It keeps things from getting repetitive.  Let’s me find new restaurants to try.  And for anything that might require buying tickets early, gives me time to do that.  (by the way, if you want a copy of the spreadsheet I use, email me and I’ll shoot it to you).  It works, and its easy.  It even lets me plan the weeks when I know we’ll need a make up date night.

5) WOMEN :: Be catchable

Hey ladies, if the man’s job is to pursue you, its your job to make the pursuit worth it.  Sure, you, in and of yourself, are worth it.  But you really can add in the things that make the pursuit fun.  Dress for your man.  Have a few “surprises” of your own for him.  Flirt with your man…in public.  Do something rather sneaky that just the two of you know about.  Acquiesce to his request. In other words, be catchable.  Your man’s job is to plan the date- in other words, lay the framework.  Your job- make the date fun.  And for when you get home later that night, have a plan of your own…if you smell what I’m cookin’.  Surprise and shock him!

Go for it- improve your dating life by following this, the 5th Commandment of Dating!  Remember Your DateNights and Keep Them Holy.

4 Real Political Issues Every Couple Must Vote On


It’s the first Tuesday in November.  That means it’s election day.  And as I am about to head off to the polls to perform my civic duty, I can’t help but wonder if my wife will be able to make it to the polls after work.  And as I picture her standing there at the booth, punching in her vote on those oh-so-reliable machines, two thoughts occur to me : 1) I wonder when the machines will get smart enough to actually scrap our votes and vote a machine into office- I’m telling you- that’s how they will take over.  2) I have no clue as to who my wife will vote for…and I’m really ok with that.

Politics is not something that Penny and I ever really discuss.  It’s not something that matters enough to either of us to spend our few precious moments together discussing.  We have, however, spent a little time discussing how it’s not important enough to spend time discussing it.  Discussing.

Simply put, politics is not something unites or divides us.  It’s mute issue.  But it makes me wonder… should we be talking about it at least some?  I mean, I couldn’t tell you what political party she lines up with.  I have a good guess, but I don’t know for sure.  I think I’ve told her in passing where I line up, but I couldn’t swear to that either.  Should I know what my wife thinks politically?  Should I even care if she doesn’t think like I do politically speaking?   Either way, I guarantee you that tonight when we go to bed, we won’t be talking about this election or who we think should or shouldn’t have won.

No, I don’t think I should know more about her political standings and I don’t particularly care to either.  If it was important to me that we line up politically, then it would have been something we talked about when we were dating, before we got married.   But I’m satisfied with the idea that my guess is that we line up more than we don’t.  And if I’m wrong- who cares?

Politics just don’t have a place in our relationship.  It’s not what we’re about.  We’re not going to quibble over those issues.

But I do think this raises a great question…what are the issues we should be concerned with? what are the real issues that we need to be sure that we line up on.  I’ve narrowed it down to 4 basic Issues that are the real issues couples have to contend with.  These are issues that you MUST be in alignment on for your relationship to work.  And if you’re thinking about moving your dating relationship to the next level, think of this like a good check list.  Here we go:

1) The Issue of Faith.  It is paramount that you as a couple agree on at the least the basic tenants of faith.  Since what you believe or don’t believe about God is really at the core of who you are, it certainly is something to be talked about.  (Notice I’m not talking about the finer points of theology.  I think its way less of an issue to agree on Calvinism vs Arminianism than it is to agree on whether or not Jesus’ death on a cross has atoned for sins – or – was it all a charade?  Or perhaps There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.)  Whatever your faith- your partner better be in at least basic agreement with you on that

2) The Issue of Love. Do you agree that you love each other?  A man smarter than me once said that love is choosing to put the wants, needs, and desires of another individual above your own. Basically its serving one another.  So are you going to love each other.  One of things I’ve learned in the few short months that I’ve been married is that it works best when Penny and I are each serving each other without requiring that the other one serves us back.  It’s hard in a relationship to be the one constantly serving and never being served, so it’s important that you agree that you will serve each other.  However, I know my own selfishness comes into the equation more often than I would like and that’s when things start getting rocky.

3) The Issue of Longevity Are you in it to win it?  More than that, are you in it till the end?  Let’s face it, craps comes up.  You will both make stupid choices.  Are you going to own up to it when its you?  Are you going to forgive when it’s not you?  Is your commitment to sticking it out more than your fleeting urge to run?  When things get rocky and you uncover the full extent of the brokenness of your partner, will you lean into your marriage or pull away from it?  Are you in it for the long haul?  Does your spouse know that?  I challenge you… make it a point to remind your spouse today, no matter what, you’re in it till the end.

4) The Issue of Unification Are you going to be one with each other?  Are you so committed that you will agree to work on the places that you disagree on to come to a unified conclusion?  I like what Matthew Henry said in his commentary about Adam and Eve – That the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved. It’s a beautiful statement.  Whether you believe this account or not the idea is true, man and woman, husband and wife are one… side by side, walking together.  Do what it takes to be unified with your spouse.  And if you’re dating, you should know that there is not a single person on this earth that you will be completely unified with 100% of the time.  The question is :: who is the person that you want to work through those issues with.

Those, my friends, are the real issues to be voted upon, not whether or not we want local control over the water company.  And if you’re dating, those are the real issues that you want to work through before deciding to move to the next step.

How about you?  What about in your relationship?  Do politics play a role?  Are they an issue?  What do you think are the real issues that couples have to contend with.  Leave a comment and let us know.

Weekly Featured Date: Silver Cue Bar


This post was originally written earlier this summer.  But as this week approached for the Weekly Featured Date, this is the place I kept coming back to you.  So rather than rewrite, I thought I’d repost this.  Written by my friends Anyerin and Jamie Lea, the Aussies have given us a great plan for datenights this week.  Enjoy!

On a fun date night as summer approached we headed out on an adventure to find some great night life.

The side of town we were on is often a harsh reality of the two different side’s of Lexington especially as we are Aussies’ and anywhere that isn’t on our normal route to and from home can be somewhat over whelming, but we pushed through and discovered a great place! Silver Cue!

Showed up and forgot my I.D. Would have been OK if there hadn’t been so many GIANT signs saying “HAVE I.D. READY”. Dang! Oh, wait, old license  in the car. Alright we’re in.

Bartender/owner was lovely. Had a mustache too. I think…I was a little distracted by the billions of billiard tables (OK, maybe 25). The tables were calling my name, in a strange foreign accent, and the sound of clacking balls and chalk on cues created a cacophony of music!

Then again, it’s just a “pool hall”. But then again, again, we’re a musical couple and any type of date where there’s a possibility of music being present  has the draw of honey to a bee. Are bees attracted to honey?

Anyway, our courageous spirit started us off with a race to the back table away from  anyone else, we’d taken the $8  an hour bargain for table hire, picked up our billiard balls and accessories and were ready with drinks ordered to begin the 5 games in an hour challenge!

That is of course after we find the triangle. Thanks to the great spanish speaking guys who laughed as they pointed out the triangle hanging from a lighting fixture above my head. Tip to the wise…look up.

A lovely lady came and served us. She was quick, but it was a slow night (which I’m assuming a Monday would be). Another great tip, this place is probably better for a week night date than a weekend, if you don’t wanna be swamped.

We could have ordered from the menu, which had some great looking food (remember, this place is really a hole in the wall style, alluded to by the chilled atmosphere and the photos of dishes laminated into the menus). Would have, but we were there for business.

The business of kicking one another’s butts with our awesome ninja reflexes and billiards skills! Unfortunately for Jamie, Anyerin’s nimble fingers and superior accuracy were no match for her ninja techniques. Anyerin 4, Jamie 1.

All in all, we were only there for an hour, and wanted to be there for 3. Cheap drinks and great service. I think we payed $13 for the game and 2 alcoholic drinks.

Definitely going back again! If only to see who will win this time!! Check it out soon! Great for Summer for sure

Silver Cue Billiards Bar.

694 East New Circle Road
Lexington, KY 40505-4513
(859) 252-4821

Before leaving home you will need these things:

1. Your date!

2. ID

3. Money of some sort

4. A competitive spirit

Thanks to Anyerin and Jamie Lea Drury for guest blogging for GreatDateSpot.com.  Be sure to check out Jamie Lea’s Blog at jamieleadrury.wordpress.com.